Emil,
thank you for your clarification! I really enjoyed it!
As for me your answer could not be long enough :)
I have been trying to go to both the extremes - either to play everything by ear or by theory. And I failed ha-ha-ha.
But what is slowly slowly coming out of it is the understanding that every one of us finally has to find his /her own way to master those sweet "secret" tones.
Warmest regards,
Kavi.